Anger Management

CAN YOU MANAGE YOUR ANGER?

THERE are two kinds of angry people — explosive and im­plosive. And as Jack Nicholson tells Adam Sandler in the film Anger Management, "Explosive is the type of individual you see screaming at the cashier for not taking his coupon. Implosive is the cashier who remains quiet day after day and then finally shoots everyone in the store." That pretty much sums up the need for anger management .Experts tend to believe that anger is merely the problem., "Some people are just chroni­cally angry and in the habit of being angry. Giving in to their demands is like offering an alcoholic a drink." If you scratch below the surface, there's a lot of pain and hurt that needs to be addressed.. -We have to learn to manage the pain, be­fore one explodes."Psychologist points out that the treatment plan calls for a lifestyle change so that patients learn to "respond rather than react". We believe in empowering our clients with the three As —awareness, acceptance, action and then teach them problem-solving techniques. Discipline is also important.", "When an emotion begins to hamper you and your fami­ly life, it's time to seek the help of a counsellor. We should learn from our mistakes and cut down on expecta­tions which set us up for disappoint­ments."Control anger before it controls you.— learn to approach the prob­lem in a straightforward manner.
Intra-communications trainer uses a 15-minute movement meditation technique in his sessions, performed to music. where one focuses their anger on anirksome issue. It's difficult to cross the initial stages of anger, he says, with­out breaking down. .Anger is nothing but a defence mechanism.
There are various triggers for anger ranging from mild irritation to violent outbursts. For instance, about an ag­gressive child, whose real problem lay in an over-disciplinarian and over­critical mother: wanted things to go his way and a young man who felt stress and de­pression build up after witnessing the 26!11 terror attacks..
'Anger stimulates the release of the hormones adrena­line and cortisol into the bloodstream, which mobilise the body in the short-term, but can be destructive if chron­ic." Pent-up anger can also lead to a rise in blood pressure and ulcers.
To deal with stress and anger, Bad­hwar suggests spending 10 minutes of quality time on your own everyday or sipping a cup of tulsi chai. The key, though, is to remember that a temper is the one thing you can't get rid of by losing it!

• Tips To MANAGE ANGER
  I Relax. Think of a place or a time that you particularly enjoy.
  I Counting from 50 backwards shifts brain activity from the emotional to the analytical part of the brain, decreasing the intensity of the unwanted emotion.
  I Laugh often and watch movies that tickle your funny bone,
  I Don't jump to conclusions. Listen to others.
  I Instead of revisiting hurtful events in your mind, forgive the person who wronged you.
  Have a healthy diet. adequate vitamins are vital for your body.
• With children dont over stimulate them with their hobbies etc

Stress Management

Inner Engineering
New Age Therapies
§ QUANTUM HEALING: Helps to increase vibrations of cells by increasing metabolism
§ NLP (NUERO LINGUISTIC PROGRAMMING): A theory of language, communication and thought that helps in improving the way people interact with the world.
§ CRANIO SACRAL BALANCING: It balances our neurological system. Gentle manipulations release restrictions.
§ I EMOTIONAL FREEDOM TECHNIQUE: A tool that works on the body's energy field and releases negative emotions restoring its 'balance'.
§ I REBIRTHING: It is a special breathing technique which releases traumas, conflicts, stresses and past memories.
Heal yourself at work through new age alternative therapies
DON'T buckle under stress at work. It's time for some inner engineering.
Organisations today can hardly afford employees falling ill from stress. Companies like TCS, Infosys and Wipro have in-house recreational centres like theatre and clubs for bibliophiles, adventure and trekking, where employees can unwind., "These pgrammes are essential them work out their prob­lems."
There's a variety of new-age therapies that can help you unwind: Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) for interacting bet­ter with people, emotion­al freedom technique (EFT) for freedom from negative emotions, quan­tum healing and re-birthing for positivity

"EFT helps deal with any painful emo­tions that one may be harbouring."
Hospitals use NLP to help terminally ill patients fight stress, while Vimhans has been using bio-feedback and NLP. These therapies help you get rid of phobias, manage pain, even prepare you for public speaking and teach you to create rapport.

It seems nobody wants to be bound by their emotional baggage. So, let loose!

Body language During Interview

TIPS ON BODY LANGUAGE DURING INTERVIEW
Body, Language' speaks volumes about you
In an interview, 'how' you present yourself is as impor¬tant as the answers you give to potential employer's queries. When you walk in a room there will usually be a short exchange of pleasantries and ice breaking. It is designed to put you at ease but these initial moments are the most formative and judging. Body language conveys all sorts of messages, and the right body language will convey the message of a well-balanced and confident individual. It is ad¬visable to keep certain points in mind about your body lan¬guage when you prepare for an interview Here are some tips:
How to present yourself
 When you meet the interviewer, a pleasant natural smile, a firm handshake and a brief exchange of words is enough.
 Take the polite, conservative route.
 Wait to be told to take a seat or ask if you may, then say thank you.
 Sit comfortably but with good posture. If - you dont know what to do with your hands, keep them folded in your lap. Both feet should be on the floor, you may lean slightly towards the inter¬viewer.
 Don't play with your hair or your hands. Keep your hands out of your pockets!
 Maintain eye contact with the interviewer Avoid staring or you might make the inter¬viewer uncomfortable.
 If there's more than one interviewer, look at who's talk¬ing. When you're talking, shift your glance from one to the other
 Don't over use your hands to gesticulate.
 Try to be natural. Do nod to show you're listening to the interviewer
 Be professional at all times and mirror your interviewer's behaviour.
 Try not to create barriers in communication, like a brief case on your knees, file in front of your face or crossed legs.
 Try not to appear nervous
 apprehensive or disillusioned.

Take a note on few body postures and what they mean:
 Crossed arms - means that the person is in a defensive and reserved mood.
 Crossed arms and legs -means that the person feels very reserved and suspicious.
 Open arms and hands -means that the person is open and receptive.
 Standing with hands in side the pockets - means he is not sure or feels suspicious.
 Standing with hands on his hips - means he is receptive and ready to help you out.
 Sitting in a chair shaking one of the legs - means he feels nervous and uncomfortable.
 If his eyes are downcast and face turned away - means he is not interested in what you are saying.
 With the palm of the hand holding or stroking his chin -means he is in an evaluating position and being critical.
 Leaning back in his chair with both hands clasped behind his head - means he is in an analytical mood, but it is also a gesture of superiority.
 Rubbing or touching his nose when answering a question - means he is not telling the complete truth.
 Maintains good eye con¬tact and smile means he is relaxed, happy and definitely receptive to you.
 Rubbing the back of his head or rubbing or touching the back of his neck - means the conversation is not really interesting.
 Avoid palm-down gestures as such signs as they are generally reserved for authority figures.